Happy New Year! Best Wishes for 2015 from Writer and Life Coach Patricia Foster

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You are amazing. Yes, YOU! Look at what you have accomplished to get to this very point in your life. ~ Patricia Foster

As we approach the end of 2014, it is a useful time to inhale, exhale and look at our accomplishments and victories that got us where we are today. If you search within, You’ll see that you have so much to celebrate.

I am very grateful that I have a lot to celebrate from 2014:

I have been invited to participate in numerous events this year as a Poet, Coach, Speaker and Workshop Facilitator, in The UK and Jamaica.
Included is the successful Every Woman Inspired conference in Jamaica.

I practice as a qualified Life Coach (Dip NMC), focusing on Life Transitions.

Additionally I have the privilege of offering healing as a certified Reiki Practitioner.

I have been invited to present, deliver workshops and speak at my church, as well as working with the youth group.

I have also been made Sable Litmag Poet-in-Residence, with a year long residency and lots of exciting initiatives and events to look forward to.

To top it all, I have had exquisite, quality time with my family in The UK, Jamaica and The USA.

However, at times, it may not look as if we have a lot to celebrate.

It has been a challenging and arduous road for many. Some of us this year have experienced the loss of loved ones – myself included. We have adjusted our lives to accommodate our losses, found the strength to support others, held each other’s hands through the darkness. Sometimes, we have been the light to help others on their forward journeys. For others, again myself included, numerous life changes and transitions have made life journeys more burdensome.

It is possible our own personal challenges can strengthen us to achieve wonderful accomplishments.

How deep down did you have to dig to find your inner strength? It’s amazing what we actually have to celebrate in our lives.

What are your personal highlights? What can you show gratitude for?
Showing gratitude for what you have or what you have accomplished, is proven to create an abundant mindset. It also forces us to focus on abundance and not lack.

Please leave comments or list below your accomplishments and what you are grateful for, however big or small!

To peace, love, happiness and your success in 2015.
© Patricia Foster

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Quote on Transition and Change from Patricia Foster – Transitional Coach, Poet, Writer, Speaker, Trainer, Expert.

When we are transitioning towards our goals, our external world may present a series of challenging circumstances for us to conquer.

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Helping you to transition towards your ultimate goals and desires in life.

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Patricia Foster Coaching, Empowerment & Mentoring Services

Qualified Life Coach (Dip NMC), Mentor, Writer, Speaker and Trainer

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“Strategically working and partnering with the transitioning YOU; to transform YOU to where your dreams, desires and highest human potential are.

Guiding YOU towards the place where you can confidentially unleash and reveal the True, Authentic YOU!”
~ Patricia Foster

WHY CHOOSE TRANSITIONAL AND TRANSFORMATIONAL COACHING?

For many, life can be one, long path of huge transitions, such as:

Child birth or child rearing,

Finding a new school for your child/children

Studying or exams

Transition from graduate to successfully employed

A change in job or career

Relocating yourself or family to another country or city

The journey you took after redundancy

From single, to engaged to being married

Relationship changes, separation or divorce

Major illness, injury or surgery – yourself or a loved

Changes in your financial circumstances and all that entails

Dealing with life after bereavement

A journey of the mind; moving from limiting beliefs, to positive self talk and higher self-esteem

There may be many obstacles – mental and emotional – which also land along this path. The transitioning process can be arduous and draining, time consuming, eroding your self esteem at the same time.

Coaching helps you explore the inner tools, actions and solutions needed to journey through your transition.
Consequently, you will unlock the ability to transform your thinking and self belief.

The Transformation process will include helping you to identify and establish your ultimate dreams, goals and desires, then Transform you towards your personal success and highest potential through your behaviours, actions and belief systems.

MY SUPPORT FOR YOU

My aim is to guide, amongst many, Women, Girls, Sensitive Children and Creative Practitioners to ease your transitioning, helping you receive clarity of thought about what your goals are, to create positive, highly effective habits and facilitate your transformation.

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ABOUT


Qualified Transitional, Transformational & Empowerment Coach (Dip NMC)

Works in The UK and Internationally

Specialises in:

Children,

Teenagers,

NEETs (Young People Not in Education, Employment or Training),

Girls / Young Women,

Women,

EBD (Emotional Behavioural Disorders) Students,

Corporate Team Building,

Writers,

Artists,

Creative Practitioners,

Creative Entrepreneurs,

Health and Wellbeing Practitioners

Holistic Health Seekers,

Vegans

COACHING SESSIONS

Coaching sessions with individuals or groups, in person or via Skype

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COACHING AIMS

Working with young people, adults and children.

Raising confidence levels in adult learners

Providing life guidance, mentoring and emotional support for disaffected young adults

Working with young offenders on reparation orders. Providing empowering tools and multimedia solutions as well as pastoral guidance and coaching

Working with young people, women and men in prisons

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Also delivers Personal Development and Empowerment Workshops at Conferences, Seminars, Retreats, Inset Training and Corporate Events

CONTACT

UK: +447956 476 547

Jamaica: +1 (876) 524-7395

Email: prfoster@hotmail.com

Skype: patricia_foster_trainer

Twitter: @Ms_P_Foster

Facebook: LIKE the Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/PatriciaFosterCoachingServices

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My Next Poetry Performance: Guest Poet at Fundraiser ‘Every Child Matters… Inspire a Girl, Big up a Boy in Jamaica’

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I am delighted to share that I will be a special guest poet and speaker at a very worthwhile event and fundraiser entitled ‘Every Child Matters… Inspire a Girl, Big up a Boy in Jamaica’. I will appear alongside some prestigious artists and Speakers such as singer/actress LORNA GEE, singer MICHAEL GORDON, HARAMBE DRUMMERS, singer PAULETTE TAJAH and guest speaker MR MOR DIOUM – Director of The Victoria Climbe Foundation UK.

One Step Forward Consultancy in recognition of Child Month will be hosting its Fund Raising Event for this cause on FRIDAY, 9th MAY 2014 at The Croydon Park Hotel, 7, Altyre Road, Croydon, London, CR9 5AA. 6pm – 2am.

If you are a social worker, or are involved with child support agencies, do come down, show support or forward to interested parties.

Tickets for Dinner and Dance £30, for Dance only £15, for Display/Exhibition Table £20

For more information please email: onestepforwardconsultancy@gmail.com or phone Patricia McKenzie-Thomas on 07960-368-048 or Sharon on 07956 801 709

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Quote of the Day, by Patricia Foster: ‘Acceptance, Patience and Love Towards Others’

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In our modern style of living and busyness, it is very easy to lose sight of where a friend or loved one is in their life. To misunderstand the journey they are on. To have little or no concept of what they are going through.

For those experiencing pain or personal challenges, reaching out to another can be extremely difficult.

This week, two high profile young twenty-somethings – Peaches Geldof, daughter of Sir Bob and the late Paula Yates (25) and Karyn Washington, founder of forbrowngirls.com (22) – were both found dead on 7th April and 8th April respectively. At the time of writing this blog, tests are still being carried out on Peaches and Karyn apparently committed suicide.

In my line of work with young people, I often rely on intuition to gauge if someone is in need of support. A listening ear, or by removing our own judgement of another, is usually all it takes to help that friend or loved one get back on track.

Who could do with your listening ear today?

Please feel free to leave a comment and share.

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Abuse in Relationships: The Possible Impact on Women and Girls

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In response to “Start Anew” by Taurus Riley.

“When abuse is also emotional, psychological and verbal, as hard as it is, that is a crucial time to walk away. This is not love and no amount of repeated apologies, gifts or flowers makes it OK! ”
~ Patricia Foster
19/2/13

I was alighted to a video by one of my favourite artists, Jamaican singer Taurus Riley. The 2009 song ‘Start Anew’ depicts the emotionally charged dynamics of relationship abuse towards women.

He cleverly conveys very powerful words and a strong message for women currently in abusive relationships. Abuse in relationships can be mental or emotional, as well as physical.

The scars – emotional, mental or physical – can stay with some women for years, impacting on their lives, their choices and those around them.

I think it is also important for a man to speak out against abuse towards women in a relationship. This also reinforces the message and shows there are positive and progressive men who will not tolerate this behaviour and are making it clear they will not be covering up for their fellow men’s misdemeanours.

‘What about us men?’, I hear you cry. Yes, abuse against men does exist. This was recently highlighted in the dramatised physical abuse storyline between Coronation Street’s characters Tyrone Dobbs and his fiancé Kirsty Soames (portrayed by Alan Halsall and Natalie Gumede respectively). In July 2013, the wife of former motorcycle stunt rider Eddie Kidd was sentenced for physical abuse towards her husband.

Statistics show that in the UK, more women are likely to suffer relationship abuse than men.
A February 2013 online article in ‘Family Law Week’ contains findings from the survey ‘Focus on Violent Crime and Sexual Offences 2011/12’. The survey reveals “7% of women and 5% of men have suffered domestic abuse in the year 2011-2012. This equates to an estimated figure of 1.2 million female and 800,000 male victims. The article also defines relationship or domestic abuse as: “‘domestic abuse’ includes non-physical abuse, threats, force, sexual assault or stalking carried out by a current or former partner or other family member.”

Speaking from a woman’s point of view (I have unfortunately experienced relationship abuse), abuse against women in relationships can be as subtle as it is obvious.

Sometimes it may take a while to realise that what you are involved in is abuse. It may be easier for outsiders to say “why did you go there?”. Instead, I believe understanding, support and perhaps refuge should be offered to the abused, so they have time to heal and grow stronger.

It is important as well for parents and guardians to empower girls and young women with the tools and positive, mental attitude to steer them along the path towards supportive, loving relationships. These seeds can be planted early on by demonstrating and exposing them to positive, loving examples of relationships in the home as well as through the media. Also imparting them with the wisdom and knowledge as to how they inform others the way they wish to be treated as a girl/young woman/female. One of the modules I recently co-delivered on a six-week course entitled ‘The Virtue Programme’ covered exactly this notion of communicating with others how we wish to be treated and how we want others to engage with us.

Of course, this is easier said than done. If the intention at the onset is to prepare young girls for future relationships, then over time and with practice, empowering our young girls with inner-strengthening tools and messages will become easier. I would also add that it is important while delivering these messages the importance of painting men in a positive light as opposed to misogynistic monsters.

Relationship abuse is within the underbelly of our community and comes in many guises. Abuse, any type of abusive, should not be tolerated on any level whatsoever.

Well done, Mr Riley!

© Patricia Foster 6th November 2013

References:
“Start Anew” by Taurus Riley 2009.

Article in ‘Family Law Week’
http://www.familylawweek.co.uk/site.aspx?i=ed111665, Survey: ‘Focus on Violent Crime and Sexual Offences 2011/12’

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Creative Education Consultant, Poet, Tutor and Holistic Coach for Sensitive, EBD Pupils | Patricia Foster

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Is your child emotionally sensitive and slightly overwhelmed by the school learning environment?

Does your child require an educator or education environment which holistically supports their emotional sensitivity?

Is your child labelled ‘shy’, ‘introverted’, ‘misunderstood’ or even ‘disruptive’?

Does your child prefer a calmer, relaxing, more sedate learning environment, supportive of their emotional needs?

Does your child have any unrealised creative gifts or talents and need a empathic educator to help them realise their potential?

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Tel: +44(0)7956 476 547

Email: prfoster@hotmail.com

http://about.me/patriciafoster

Twitter: @Ms_P_Foster

Skype: patricia_foster_trainer

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Patricia Foster – Poet, Educator and Inspirational Workshops

“I never teach my pupils; I only attempt to provide the conditions in which they can learn.”
~ Albert Einstein

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Teaching, Training and Coaching – the connection from my soul to the Universe. My gift to all. I love what I do and enjoy doing what I love! This quote by Albert Einstein probably explains why I love to create the best learning environment for my learners, of all ages and abilities!

 
My approach to education is unique, empathic, holistic, creative and empowering. My aim is to empower individuals of all ages and sections of the community, to be the best person they can be. To guide them to uncover their own inner tools and gifts to succeed in life. To help improve their lives and wellbeing through poetry, writing, creativity, multi media, coaching, consultancy and holistic health & nutrition advice.
 

I am available for poetry workshops, as well as creative, multi media, personal development and wellbeing workshops, in any establishment – the more unusual, the better! I can also provide consultancy or guide you through the steps to set up your community multi media project.

If you require an internationally recognised professional poet for:

  • Primary or Secondary Schools
  • PSHE Classes
  • Assemblies
  • Black History Month
  • National Poetry Day
  • World Book Day
  • International Women’s Day
  • Residencies
  • Interactive or Traditional Storytelling
  • Corporate Training Days
  • Team Building Events
  • Workshops with Senior Citizens
  • Workshops in Youth and Community Groups
  • Workshops on Bullying
  • Workshops in Pupil Referal Units (PRUs)
  • Workshops in Libraries
  • Workshops in Prisons

contact me and I’ll guarantee a stimulating, positive and engaging session.

Check out the rest of my site to find out what other training and education services I can provide.

Lips – New Poetry Film Release by Patricia Foster. A Poet’s View on Teenage Bullying!

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I am really pleased to share with you that the film version of my poem ‘Lips’, which tackles the theme of teenage bullying, has been released. It is uncanny how it has been released at a time when bullying and in particular cyber bullying, has been in the news of late; not just here in the UK but world wide.

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It has been quite emotional for me to see my poem brought to life on film, by the amazingly talented Mellow 9 Productions http://www.mellow9productions.co.uk/. The journey from poem idea – first developed in a Malika’s Poetry Kitchen Friday session – to film has been eleven years. The topic of bullying and identity being relevant then as it is now.

This film also couldn’t have been brought to life in such a magnificent way, without the superb young female actors – who were so serendipitously cast – provided by The Girls Friendly Society of England and Wales (GFS Platform Islington Project). http://www.gfsplatform.org.uk/youth-work.html Located in the London borough of Islington, this wonderful project delivers a wide range of exciting activities, workshops and events for young women aged 11 to 19, to widen their horizons, encourage debates and boost confidence and aspirations.

It was an absolute pleasure to work with such a brilliant cast and crew.

Click on the link below to view the film

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When Will Bullies Get The Message? – by Patricia Foster

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As individuals, we are ALL created uniquely beautiful. Some of us have gentle dispositions and are therefore misunderstood. Some of us are extremely sensitively wired and are therefore misunderstood. Some of us will NEVER fit into the mould of acceptable looks, or acceptable past times. It’s about having patience with and being accepting of others, instead of demonising them…because they are not like you!

Some of us have not developed the communication tools to express our thoughts or feelings, so may have difficulty in responding to harsh words or criticism, or are unable to articulate the inner pain connected to these harsh words. Speaking out against harsh, critical words may be a huge challenge.
Some of us may feel unsupported, because we are unable to find the right person to express our innermost thoughts and feelings to, without the fear of our expressed feelings being thrown back in our faces.

There is a saying “hurt people hurt people”. Research has shown that those who are unhappy within, or are in pain themselves lash out or bully others, therefore hurting their intended target too.

I performed poetry at a recent ‘Loose Muse’ women’s writing event and a courageous young lady shared her own, deeply personal experiences of being bullied and subsequently wanting to take her own life. She mentioned also that in the area of south London where she resides, suicides among teenagers, in particular GCSE and A Level students were at a ridiculously high number. This was not just due to the pressures of life, but also about how some are made to feel by harsh comments and treatments by others.

Today, I read a Facebook post, which outlined the last Tweet posted by a young man, tormented over the years about his sexuality. He was commonly referred to as “a loser, freak and fag” and used this to describe himself in his last Twitter message. He felt he had done the world an injustice and therefore took his life.

Without the right support and understanding from others, when will people cease to remove their inner pain, torment and feelings of being misunderstood by taking their own lives?

Some of us will never be accepted, because we are moulded and act differently.

How can those of us who are emotionally stronger step in to help prevent bullying and help support and encourage those who are being bullied or misunderstood?

In my workshops and through my writing I have focussed on this, as I have also been bullied and victimised by others. I therefore choose to use my art and holistic and well-being tools to help stand up to this. Writing and coaching can be useful ways to express pain, as well as feel accepted and valued within.

© Patricia Foster